Been a minute since I gave a book report.
Ok guys as many of you guys could realize by this point I’m a bit of a book worm, I love reading and learning. It’s honestly one of my favorite things to do, so I was introduced to a book by a friend (Skills the guy who put me in his book Secrets of Dance Floor Seduction) called Models by Mark Manson. It is a phenomenal book and honestly I haven’t come across a book I have agreed with this much in a LONG time when it comes to Pick Up. This is a very basic break down and honestly PLEASE READ THIS BOOK as you won’t get all of his message from this book review!
Note: This man is well studied and very science based, which is why I got along with his information so well.
A Basic Introduction
Mark’s book is phenomenal because it doesn’t focus on getting good with women to begin with… His early focus is more realistic and honest, it focuses on getting good at being yourself. He has a few principles and theories that are awesome and entirely too true. But his overall book is broken up into 3 parts that parallel my own model for “getting laid”, Honest Living, Honest Action, and Honest Communication. It is a bit different but they all contain the same aspects.
His entire style is centered on building a better more self-confident you and operating from that standpoint, it gives tips on everything from building your confidence to creating goals to how you dress to just downright understanding more about communicating with women and advancing the interaction sexually.
A Few Concepts
Vulnerability
This concept is awesome it discusses how attractive a man begins to look when he can begin to show his vulnerability. It is definitely something I realized a long time ago when I learning a lot about charisma, which starts with humility a lot of times. Being human is a good thing, showing weakness is a sign of strength not weakness and that is what makes this concept so amazing.
Desire vs. Needy
Most women love when I guy wants her sexually, desires her on a whole level where he nears a loss of self-control. Women on the other hand can’t stand a needy guy that needs attention, needs her to care about him. NEEDY is a turn off, Desire is a turn on. I have to agree immensely with this, when you show a woman you desire her, it is more from an abundance stand point. He discussed how when women fantasized about rape it was because of wanted to be desired on a near outrageous level.
Confidence= High Status
Self-Confidence and high Self-esteem is based on status you having “high status”, so when you gain the self-confidence I refer to it is a sign of status.
His Three Sections
Honest Living
Honest living is an awesome self-help section that he tells you about living life for you, gaining more self-confidence (not in the same words but it is his message), it contains two main chapters: Demographics and How to be Handsome. Each chapter has valuable info on figuring out how to be the guy you can be and choosing women who appreciate that guy.
Honest Action
This section has two chapters as well: What are Your Stories? And How to take action. Each section is great and talks about what may be holding you back, this section introduced me to a great concept I didn’t realize I struggled with in my life when it comes to meeting women. Makes me more aware of how I was holding myself back by not being more aware of my mindset or “buts” as Sean Stephenson would say. He also introduces his great model for how to get past approach anxiety.
Honest Communication
This section is made up of four chapters: Your Intentions, How to be Charming, The Dating Process, and Physicality and sex. All of the chapters are great, each one has a lot of great information, from how to have a conversation to creepiness to flirting. He also goes over building a connection and how to be funny. It is a great chapter that actually helped me be more aware of what I was doing right and how to do them more often (which is already a lot of natural habits). He also introduces you to dating. He then concludes this with basically sexual escalation: Kissing, Escalation, and Sex. He also talks about how sexual escalation is the one skill you have to use to engage in sex regularly (which I completely agree with).
Closing
His last section is closing and it goes over the last bits and ends you need. He also includes at the end goals to making you very good with women and how you can move up levels on getting better with women.
This book is a great book and I highly recommend everyone who wants to be skilled with women read it. It teaches you a LOT about women and how to get good at being yourself. He also gives a nice reading list at the end to help you progress in specific areas if you are interested.
Peace and Love,
Vic
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